WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN MARRIAGE?

Many a times this question arose in my mind that what does it really takes to sustain a marriage. According to me it was loyalty and trust, but as I grew up my views have changed drastically. Being a Counsellor I come across people of all ages and phases of life who are married or have been married at some point of time. Talking about other parameters like the degree to which people care about each other, respect, keeping the spark alive, being loyal, these all are essentials but what if problems surround your marriage?

When a person is weak, vulnerable and disheartened by failures, it is very clear that he is not his/ her real self. He resorts to his coping patterns whatever they may be or may have formed during his upbringing. In this situation obviously he is not patient and considerate enough to fulfil all the parameters. So what saves your marriage? Is it love? Is it loyalty? Because I have seen loyal people part ways with each other as well.

I think its the internal will of a person which can sustain a marriage. It doesn’t even have to include the best understanding with your partners. Because your partner might be weak at some point of time. So, sometimes its up to you to keep your weakness below your partner’s so as to lift both of you up gradually.

I think until its a case of serious disrespect or anything grave according to you for that matter, we should take initiative to sustain our relationships. Because NOBODY IS PERFECT. But its us who can create perfection. Its us who can create love and togetherness.